Stop Being A Target For Narcissists : The Chosen Myth Workshop

For too long, empaths and sensitive souls have been told they “attract” narcissists because they’re somehow chosen for a special spiritual mission — as if their suffering is sacred or deserved. This workshop dismantles that myth. You were never chosen to be hurt. You were conditioned to over-give, over-explain, and over-function — and that conditioning made you visible to those who feed on your energy.

In this 120-minute intensive, participants uncover the energetic patterns that make them susceptible to manipulative relationships. Through the lens of trauma awareness, energy psychology, and spiritual sovereignty, the workshop reveals how narcissists don’t seek “love” — they seek supply. They locate those with gaps of self-worth, unhealed abandonment wounds, or an unconscious belief that love must be earned. The work begins by identifying that “gap energy” — the frequency that signals, I’ll give more than I receive if it keeps me safe.

We explore the origins of that frequency: childhood environments where survival depended on attunement, caretaking, or emotional labor. By tracing the wound back to its source, participants learn to re-parent the parts of themselves that were taught to equate worth with service. This is not about blame; it’s about awakening to the truth that your empathy is a gift — but without boundaries, it becomes bait.

The “Chosen Myth” is deconstructed: the idea that empaths are somehow predestined to heal narcissists or hold space for their transformation. This belief keeps victims trapped in cycles of spiritualized abuse. In this workshop, students learn to replace that narrative with one of sovereignty — recognizing that compassion without discernment is self-sacrifice. You are not here to be anyone’s supply; you are here to be in alignment with your own light.

Practical exercises include energetic cord-cutting, somatic awareness practices for recognizing manipulation in real time, and boundary-rebuilding rituals. Participants will journal through key prompts such as: Where do I perform for love? Where do I mistake being needed for being valued? These reflections lead to a powerful reclamation — a remembering of inherent worthiness.

By the end of the workshop, attendees walk away with a clearer energetic signature: grounded, self-validated, and unappealing to narcissistic dynamics. They will learn to embody neutrality rather than rescue, awareness rather than guilt, and confidence rather than confusion.

This experience is equal parts psychological education and energetic recalibration — a blend of intuitive wisdom and practical boundary work that helps people step out of the savior role and into self-sovereignty.

Syllabus Snapshot

Module 1 — The Chosen Myth
Why we were programmed to wait for permission. Spot the “pick-me” conditioning (fairy tales → promotions → likes) and reclaim agency so your worth stops hinging on someone else’s nod.

Module 2 — The Narcissist’s Radar
Understand “gap energy” (the invisible “something’s missing” signal) and the traits exploiters seek. Learn to seal the gap so love-bombing reads as a red flag, not fate.

Module 3 — Nice ≠ Good
Retire the self-erasing “nice girl.” Build kind, boundaried goodness. Catch early boundary tests (love-bombing, digs, pushback on “no”) and respond with calm clarity.

Module 4 — Value vs. Validation
Separate inherent value from approval hits. Detox the praise addiction so applause becomes a bonus—not oxygen. Practice living from self-approval.

Module 5 — Breaking the Pick-Me Cycle
Dismantle the craving to be chosen. “I choose me” = manipulation immunity. Daily self-validation rituals that make you unhookable.

Module 6 — Main Character Energy
Step out of the sidekick role. Write, direct, and embody your narrative—voice, style, goals—so you take up honest space without apology.

Module 7 — Doing What’s Best for You (Full Stop)
Micro self-loyalty in food, time, space, and plans. Drop the fixer reflex. Use your “body barometer” to sort energizing people from energy debt.

Module 8 — When Choosing Yourself Feels “Mean”
Deprogram the “difficult woman” myth. Expect backlash from those losing free labor—and keep your crown on anyway. Guilt = growing pains, not a verdict.

Module 9 — Sparkle Without Apology
Why bright women get targeted (tall poppy syndrome) and how to protect your shine. Share wins wisely, set access levels, keep sacred work safe.

Module 10 — Energy Mastery
Shift from shielding to sovereignty. Simple daily practices (cord cutting, body scans, permission slips) to build an unstealable aura.

Module 11 — Becoming Your Most Authentic Self
Shed survival roles (good girl, savior, pick-me). Live unmasked. Belong by being whole—magnetize aligned friends, lovers, and opportunities.

Module 12 — Sovereign Integration
Rewrite the worth script: “Will they like me?” → “Do I want this?” Set your no-tolerance list. Close with a Choosing Ceremony to lock in the new frequency.

Core Takeaways:

  • Understand how “gap energy” and trauma bonding make empaths targets.

  • Release the false spiritual narrative that you were “chosen” to fix anyone.

  • Reclaim your right to safety, ease, and reciprocal relationships.

  • Learn somatic and energetic tools to detect manipulation early.

  • Anchor your new vibration in worthiness, neutrality, and discernment.

Because you were never chosen to be prey — you were chosen to remember your power.

Replay will be available 24 hours after class.